Thank you bad people. We never appreciate you enough.

I have been meaning to write for the longest time since my last post, and I actually did. But I then decided not to post them online. Then I got really busy with assignments and exams and when all that was over, I was busy reimbursing all the sleep I’ve lost….. and meals I have missed, so that left me with very little time for writing.

Anyway, today I had a lovely conversation over lunch with a certain beloved lecturer that thought me way back when I was in my 3rd semester. And she said something that I felt I needed to share with you guys. Couldn’t remember her exact words, so I’m just telling the story based on whatever was going through my mind at the moment. She told us to not only be thankful for the good people that we have met, but also for the bad ones. Now this didn’t make any sense at first. In my head, I was like “what? Even for that really mean girl that bullied me and stole my really cute coloured pens in primary 2? Even for the other girl that cuts my erasers into halves all the time in primary 6? Even for the boy that hacked into my facebook account and told other boys I liked them in high school?”. And the answer to that is yes, yes and yes. Even for them. She told me that for every single person we have crossed paths in this life, it happened for very specific reasons, that we might or might not have already realized. All this people around us are no more then mediators. Think of them as a medium that He uses to lead us toward something or to deliver a message. So, logically, shouldn’t we be thankful to the mediators for becoming the asbab (or the reason) that acts as an intermediary for what God is delivering to us? Think about it. We sure are thankful to the mailman that delivers our mails. And even more thankful to the PosLaju guy that delivers our online shopping parcels. So, why should this be any different? If anything, we should be even more thankful because the deliveries are even more valuable.

You know what this means? It means to not have regrets for every relationship (romantic or not) that don’t work out. And to not hate or blame anyone for everything bad that has happened. Instead, be thankful and grateful for everyone that was present and for everything that has happened in your journey till now and for whats to come. Because really, what seems bad on the exterior can mean the total opposite in actuality. And after all, God obviously knows what is best for us, duhh. So, who are we to judge? We’d look pretty stupid doing that. I guess it’s the same as what people (moms) always say to us, “there’s hikmah in everything”. To be honest, I never really took it seriously or never really thought about it. But I felt like she told it in a very eye-opening and elegant way that made me really appreciate the meaning behind the sentence. So, thank you primary 2 pen stealer, primary 6 eraser cutter and high school facebook hacker! Thank you for being present in my life and for doing what you did. We good now.